Guidance and Counseling


Supporting and Motivating your Child at Home


1.    Catch your child being good: Give them your individual attention when chores are done, good grades are achieved and when they do something positive for others.

2.    Remind your child that they CAN!: Sometimes kids feel like they can’t do something- help your child get credit by the good work done at school by hanging the best school paper for the day on the dining room wall.

3.    Praise your child: Be specific! Say “Thank you for cleaning your room without being asked” or “ I like the way you colored your school project”

4.    Play “Beat the Timer”: If your child has a problem completing a chore or task, set timer and encourage them to finish the job before it rings. Praise your child for a job well done.

5.    Focus on Stress: Make a list of 10 of your child’s successes for the week. Post them on their bedroom wall.

6.    Listen to your own message: If you have a negative attitude about something (work, school, learning, or getting up in the morning) don’t be surprised if your child won’t be too motivated to go to school.

7.    Teach your child to create positive mental pictures of success: The clearer a goal is in your mind, the easier it is to achieve

8.    Teach your child to set personal goals: Start small (learning to spell name for small children, learning a list of spelling words for older children) and celebrate each goal.

9.    Ask your child questions about their school day EVERYDAY!

10. When your child is not having a great day, encourage him to look through their books, photo albums, awards, certificates, ribbons, and school photos to remember past success.

11.  Encourage your child to write: Practice makes perfect! The more they write the more they can learn.

12.  Use your time as a reward: Take the child to the zoo, have lunch with them at the park, watch a movie with them and take them out for walks and talk.

13.  Assist your child to establish longer range goals: Start a family savings plan, talk about long range goals of yours, give your child an allowance and encourage to save part of it for something special.

14. Teach your child to break large jobs into smaller, achievable tasks.

15.  Reflect to the child the progress they are making: Engage your child in conversation about all the things they couldn’t do before and now he can.